Parenting with Love and Logic is one of the books on my summer reading list. I got the Kindle version of this book a while ago when it was available for a free download. It has been on my device for quite a while. {Thanks to my friend Ashley who told me about the free download}.
Here is what Amazon has to say about this book:
This parenting book shows you how to raise self-confident, motivated children who are ready for the real world. Learn how to parent effectively while teaching your children responsibility and growing their character. Establish healthy control through easy-to-implement steps without anger, threats, nagging, or power struggles
I love these words in the description: self-confident, motivated, ready for the real world, parent effectively, teaching responsibility, growing character, and healthy control. We have 3 children and no two are alike. There are ways we guide our first born that never work with our second born and vise versa. As far as the 3rd one.....he's too young to know.
We all want choices in life. So it is only natural that my children want choices in life. The boundaries are set and you get a choice if you are going to stay in the boundary or not. If you stay in the boundary there is reward. If you go outside of the boundary there are consequences. This is true for ALL of us.
Here are a few words from the book that really hit home for me.....
"We must equip our darling offspring to make the move from total dependence on us to independence, from being controlled by us to controlling themselves. What will they do when we are no longer pouring wise words into their ears? Will merely telling them to be responsible get the job done? Why do young people sometimes seem so stupidly self-destructive? The tragic truth is that many of these foolish choices are the first real decisions they have ever made."
"Nothing in parenting is sure. However, we increase the odds of raising responsible kids when we take thoughtful risks. We do that when we allow our children to fail. In fact, unless we allow them to fail, sometimes grandiosely, we cannot allow our children to choose success."
"Kids get the most out of what they accomplish for themselves. Children will get more out of making their own decision - even if it is wrong - than they will out of parents making that decision for them. Sometimes that means standing by as our kids struggle to complete a task we could easily help them with or do for them".
"If we never let our kid's struggle to get something they want or work through a problem for themselves, then when things get difficult later in life, they won't suddenly turn tough and get going; instead, they will just quit".
Of course, with any book, there are parts you can take away and parts you can leave. Parenting allows for some creative thinking and several ways to "get it right". I do highly recommend this book for parents. It has changed several of my approaches with my children.
Other parenting books I have read and love:
Don't Make Me Count to Three by Ginger Plowman
Bringing Up Boys by Dr. James Dobson
Brining Up Girls by Dr. James Dobson
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